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Eleanor Tams – My name’s origins #1 Eleanor of Aquitaine

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#1 Eleanor of Aquitaine

Whenever I ask my parents how I got my name, my Dad always brings up Eleanor of Aquitaine. I doubt that, on the day of my birth, in a newly built hospital amongst the hills of West Yorkshire, Mum and Dad were thinking of that regal figure from the middle ages. But I like how she has found her way into the myths and stories of how I came to be an Eleanor too.

And what an Eleanor she was! According to her BBC Biography,

‘Eleanor was one of the most powerful women of the Middle Ages. Duchess of Aquitaine in her own right, she would go onto become queen-consort of France and later queen of England.’

That I have a French queen as a namesake is apt, because my grandma’s grandfather (my great great grandfather) was French himself. My sister is keeping that French heritage in our family, as  our ancestor’s  surname – Regnauld – is her middle name. And maybe my love of France and the French language (not to mention a certain French Philosopher), comes from somewhere deep in my familial background too.

I think, (though of course, I’m not the only authority on it), that Eleanor of Aquitaine’s strength and power is another reason I suit her name, and she mine. When I write and express myself (usually online) as  Quiet Riot Girl , I am no shrinking violet am I?.  However much people employ digital dualism to try and separate me from QRG (or rather to link us but in a ‘split personality’ Jekyll and Hyde way), the fact is we are one and the same. I am proud of the battles I have fought, in my QRG armour, against the worst excesses of feminism in particular. Whether those battles are lost or won, only history will decide.

Returning to history, for that is where Eleanor of Aquitaine resides, I was interested to find that historical novelist Christy English, is a big fan of the medieval queen. Christy describes herself (as all good fans would, if they were honest), as ‘completely obsessed’ with Eleanor of Aquitaine.

In a round table discussion about right royal women from the past, Christy goes on to say:

Eleanor of Aquitaine, my hero, became Queen of England in 1154. I often wonder if anyone other than her father ever had influence over Eleanor. To me, she seems like a woman who lived by her own rules.

As someone who  ‘lives by her own rules’, but who, though he may not always realise it, also respects and admires her old Dad a great deal, I am happy to be an Eleanor after Eleanor of Aquitaine.

A final nugget I have picked up in my initial, brief research into my oldest namesake, I found that Eleanor of Aquitaine was a patron of poets and writers (as well as all that Crusades stuff!). I don’t have many financial resources to offer as patronage to my favourite writers. But as a writer myself and a  supporter and editor of other scribes, I am delighted to learn that ‘Eleanor Tams’ has a historical claim to writing, reading and championing both.

More on Eleanor of Aquitaine here:  http://www.alicemariebeard.com/law/eleanor.htm

http://www.womeninworldhistory.com/heroine2.html

Christy English’s website:

http://www.christyenglish.com/

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Elly Tams ‘Gets A Life’

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‘Get a life’ is a common put-down, especially online. It is one I have received on a number of occasions. The suggestion is that you are a waster, a loser, and probably sat alone in a darkened room with only the internet for company. I have never liked the connotations of the phrase, or the way it is used maliciously. So I was struck by the tweet above, which succinctly sums up all my misgivings about the ‘get a life’ insult.

One of the problems with ‘get a life’ is it seems to reinforce the notion of digital dualism. As Nathan Jurgenson and colleagues have explained, ‘digital dualism’ is the way in which many people (maybe all of us at some point or other) present ‘online’ existence as a separate sphere from ‘RL’ (real life). So when people say ‘get a life’ they can be making out that those in need of getting a life, are spending too long online, and don’t have much else going on in their lives.  ‘Get a life’ can be part of the set of narratives which constructs trolls, those ugly, sad creatures who have no friends and who get their kicks from ‘abusing’ people on the internet. There is sometimes an inference in people’s comments that ‘trolls’ don’t actually have ‘lives’ at all, like ‘normal’ people do. So you can’t hurt a troll’s feelings, because they don’t have any. And you can’t make a troll’s life difficult or unpleasant by what you say and do to them, because they don’t have one. They need to ‘get a life’ before they can be treated like full human beings.

This kind of terminology bothers me because it makes life, and ‘getting’ life fit very narrow confines. And it seems to give people the opportunity to define what someone else’s life is, and what its value is. But life is valuable for us all. I also object to how ‘Get a life’ demonises people who at some point in their life or other, rely on online connections for most or many of their social interactions. Is that such a bad thing? In the 21st century ‘social media age’? I think not.

I’m particularly aware of the ‘get a life’ brickbat at the moment. I have recently done what we all have to do at certain points in our lives, and I have got my proverbial shit together. After being self-employed for a long time (and for some periods unemployed)  I have now got a ‘proper job’ working as a researcher for a UK university. I also have had a book review published on the blog of an academic journal, Gender and Education (www dot genderandeducation dot com).

And I’ve been  dealing with issues relating to my Mum’s severe degenerative multiple sclerosis, that means she now lives in residential care. Recently which has boosted me a lot, I’ve got back in touch with a few very special longstanding friends, and made some equally special new ones.

But do all these things really mean I have ‘got a life’? Do they secure me as a ‘normal’, functioning, happy member of society?

I don’t see it like that. One reason is I have always struggled somewhat with the role work plays in my life. Without going into too much detail, I think I can sum up a lot of my ambivalence about career and paid work with the Philip Larkin poem, Toads:

Why should I let the toad work
Squat on my life?
Can’t I use my wit as a pitchfork
And drive the brute off?

Six days of the week it soils
With its sickening poison –
Just for paying a few bills!
That’s out of proportion.

In other words, ‘work’ can take over and become the bane of our lives, rather than something that makes us feel good about ourselves and our social status. And even when we get a lot out of work, sometimes the way it adds to or takes away from that social status is still problematic. You know that awful question at parties and social gatherings: ‘What do you do?’ and no answer seems good enough.

Also when I am working, especially full time (which this new job is), I sometimes resent not being able to do all the things I enjoy when I have enough spare time to do them! It is no coincidence that I wrote and published my novella last year, when I didn’t have much Work with a capital W on.

However, 42 years into my so called life, though I may not have discovered the  answer to life, the universe and everything, I think I am able to get work and other aspects of life into perspective. One other thing I have done this year that I consider a very valuable part of  my personal development is taking up tai chi. The martial art is backed up by thousands of years of philosophy, that indicates how life’s meaning and health is not to be found in ambitious pursuit of work and career, but in a much more holistic and ‘mindful’ discipline of mind, body and soul.

Again I turn to someone else who sums this sentiment up far better than I could. As the Flaming Lips put it, ‘all we have is now’.

I will remember that mantra when I am on holiday for two weeks, starting in the next few days. And  I will try and remember it when I am back and looking for ways to get through the working week without getting too strung out.

And, for those of you who are wondering if my ‘getting a life’ involves continuing my internet adventures, of course it does. But even online I will strive to remember that the moment is everything. I’m being here now.

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